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Just to vent!!!!!

Why on earth cheating is no longer a conduct problem in divorce?????!!!!!

How is it fair that my kids' and my lives have been foreverly altered by the habitual liar and cheat?????

Then there is the fuckwit co-parenting!!!!!

So the OW or OM, not only break our families, but also get to involved with our kids?????!!!!!

May their fuck worth it all!!!!!

When the states adopted "no fault divorce" in the 80s or 90s, the betrayed spouses were dealt a huge blow.

And I agree with the position that the OW/OM now get to interact with our kids. Not a Dr Phil fan but he used to use statistics about step parents or non-biological parents living with kids and the high rate of sexual abuse.

I feel for parents forced into these situations.

I know if we D my H would have introduced my kids to the OW immediately. 😡😡. I could write a novel about her but suffice to say she was very interested in becoming the step mom.

No matter how you look at it, the betrayed gets shafted on so many levels.

This is so inherently unfair!!!!! And leave a bad example for the future generations as well.

You’ve been heard. There is nothing fair about infidelity (or life, really).
Focus on your healing and future. Your lives are altered but they may end up SO MUCH BETTER.

Sending support. This stuff sucks.

Thank you!!!!! I guess, best to be rid of a cheat than to be with one!!!!!

There is a reason why cheating was treated across most cultures and for the most part of human history as a very serious matter, often receiving exclusion from the society or even the capital punishment.

It causes instability and break people, making them weak and vulnerable to further abuse, manipulation or just less productive.

So in the ancient times cheating might’ve weakened tribes enough to be crushed by rival tribes. Even i. Less extreme scenarios caused instability.

There’s a pretty good reason why it is promoted and normalized in our culture lately.
The more destabilized you are the more controllable.

And it works.

Cheating is normalized and even promoted among the population.
However just try to cheat any power, economical or political and see if there’s any double standard.

That cheating is still punished severely like always, including the capital punishment. Sometimes is called treason just to make it sound different than your betrayal, but the concept itself is identical as the very root of the word.

I hear you.

It's not fair. Nothing about infidelity is fair or reasonable or even comprehensible, really. We can explain it till we're short of breath, but that's our vain attempt to make sense of nonsense.

Vent here as often as you need to, and take the high road IRL.