fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 11:13 PM on Thursday, June 18th, 2026
"The cold hard truth is I catered to this woman my whole adult life. Let hobbies go, lost touch with great friends, changed traditions, and lost myself as a person in many ways. All for what? Like you said, what am I really fighting for here?"
I wish I had a nickel for every time I’ve heard similar words from a BS. The fact is that you will find a WS admitting they took these efforts for granted. No matter what you ultimately decide to do in your M, moving forward, always value yourself. I believe a healthy relationship involves both partners maintaining their individuality, their interests and passions, as well as devotion and commitment to their partner and family. But we’ve all been there. Losing ourselves in our day to day work, supporting our partner, being active with our children while sacrificing our hobbies or sports, or activities. There’s a correct balance there somewhere. You will find it. Getting back to your friends, your hobbies, your favorite activities is part of the healing process.
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
Pogre ( member #86173) posted at 12:00 AM on Friday, June 19th, 2026
As far as one of you moving out, particularly you, be careful with that one. In some cases that could be considered a form of abandonment in the eyes of the law as far as custody/time goes with your kids.
I don't think you're 100% looking at divorce at this point yet, but if it is a possibility you don't want to jeopardize losing time with your kids because of a technicality. Definitely run it by a lawyer before you do something like that.
Where am I going... and why am I in this handbasket?
