Howcthappen (original poster member #80775) posted at 1:28 PM on Monday, April 6th, 2026
So my FWH got diagnosed with prostrate cancer
6 years after the affair. Now that our sex life might be impacted by it I got into a trigger spiral. Please know that it’s because I push to take care of him and make him go to the doctor and keep up with his health that he was given an early diagnosis and it’s very curable.
However—-I think of how treatment will impact our sex life and I get angry all over again that he spent time having sex with her!!!
And on top of that "I AM the person who has and will always be the person taking care of him making sure he’s healthy!!
I am reminded how I did not deserve this!!
I am trying with all the goodness in me not to throw it in his face what he did - but it’s difficult.
At the end of the day I want him to get well.
Affairs the gift that keeps on giving.
Three years since DdayNever gonna be the sameReconcilingThe sting is still present
Ladybugmaam ( member #69881) posted at 1:50 PM on Monday, April 6th, 2026
I’m so sorry for you both. That is tough.
I find that almost every big, negative life event brings twinges of the A for me. I’m 7 yrs out. Major life changes, illnesses, deaths in the family, etc….and I go there. And why not? It was a major negative life event. It will always be a part of my life.
You didn’t deserve this….any more than your FWH deserves to have a cancer diagnosis. Take care.
EA DD 11/2018
PA DD 2/25/19
One teen son
I am a phoenix.
Howcthappen (original poster member #80775) posted at 2:04 PM on Monday, April 6th, 2026
You’re so right Ladybugman- every major life change. We are empty nesters recently and I went through it the first month!
Three years since DdayNever gonna be the sameReconcilingThe sting is still present
