NoThanksForTheMemories (original poster member #83278) posted at 2:08 AM on Tuesday, April 7th, 2026
I'm supporting a couple others who are still in the midst of R (not always happily), and I'm realizing how much more relaxed I am because of the divorce. We're not officially divorced yet (that won't be until August), but the court paperwork is all signed and it's basically done except for the waiting period.
I see my friends struggling with trust issues and dday antiversaries, and I realize that I no longer have to concern myself with any of that, and it is such a big relief. I was also thinking that it's been 3 years since dday3 for me, and while I can't shrug off what happened back then, I'm also not consumed by it the way I previously was. For the record, it's been 3.5 years since dday1, 13 months since I moved out, 10 months since I decided to divorce.
My heart rate monitor also confirms that I'm more relaxed lately! I guess this is what healing looks like?
WS had a 3 yr EA+PA from 2020-2022, and an EA 10 years ago (different AP). Dday1 Nov 2022. Dday4 Sep 2023. False R for 2.5 months. 30 years together. Divorcing.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 3:22 PM on Tuesday, April 7th, 2026
that is your nervous system finally getting to relax. While in limbo and false R, it never gets a chance to relax. So yes, you are healing :-)
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
